Personalized and Professional

A Blog About the MAP (Mindfully Applied Process) and the practitioner behind it.

In response to most first-time professional and casual clients requesting to get to know a little more about me before we begin such a personal process, I write here intentionally alternating personal perspectives with professional insights.


the difference between psychotherapy and coaching

Coaching (also known as counseling before psychotherapy was invented) is couched in the perspective of knowing you don't have to do it, and yet you are aware of wanting to. And also aware that there's more that you "want to do and are not doing," than there is of what you "want to do and actually do." So the function of coaching is built-in to this perception that we are not here because you "need" to be. We are here because you want to be. I like to call it a luxury.

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keep being the sponge

Some of the best advice I ever got was to, "keep being the sponge." Like a child. Simple.  Maybe as allegedly full-grown human adults we all sometimes notice simple ain't so easy, especially in the sustaining part. Until we realize it's always already here, waiting for us to join, literally. "Be ease-full" is a beacon deep within each of us, and expressed everywhere outside of us is, even right now, beckoning us to attend within. And ease-full is different than easy. Easy is an externalized desire. A wish. Sometimes it comes true. Sometimes it comes true EXACTLY the way we want it to. Then, most of the time almost immediately, due to its very nature the mind decides either "This Ain't It!" or "What if we lose it?!"

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a simple post about everything

Founded on the basic concepts of compassionate communication, trauma-informed care and motivational leadership courses galore (my first one was Covey's 7 Habits...), 30+ years' worth of experience led to the work I call Mindfully Applied Communication. Our program, Mindfully Applied Process (MAP), was born of the shared sweat equity of tear-stained sessions as much as it was individual tearshed equity and a willingness to sweat it out with others through many a session. Side Note: Do the hard things. It's worth it. If for no other reason, to find clarity and self-assuredness about what's worth it to you. Maybe the increased momentum is a secondary gain, but I bet you notice the difference. And like it. And smile.

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